Facebook is not our life.
Let me tell you a story
In the middle of January 2018, I was in a theatre with my love, on my left side. We discussed anything, our journey, observing people and waiting before the drama begins. On the other side: another woman. Her husband was just on her right too.
What did she do? Liking e-ve-ry comments of her Facebook friends. Like: “ I’ve read your comment, so I like it!”.
She was like a robot, face down to her smartphone. She wasn’t sharing her day or anything with her husband and vice-versa. She was utterly disconnected from the real world during 20 minutes, before the show.
The point is: we all have done this shitty behavior once.
Like robots: we like, react, comment on social networks.
But it’s communication, right? Is it okay? Yes, it is.
Next, I asked myself:
“What does my Facebook history looks like now, with all this activity?”
Comments, likes, posts, etc. What the value of it? Is my life too exposed?
Is it useful to let your prints everywhere you walk, every time you enter a shop, every time you dislike a movie, a restaurant, or a bar?
The first fact is every content can be liked (or disliked) today, like this Medium post. It makes sense because it’s the only mean to share your instant feeling to the other ones on this virtual communication network: the Internet. Clapping a Medium post is like clapping at the theater or during a TED talk right? How about commenting a video that you will entirely forget the next two months? What the purpose of this?
The other fact is that your comment or your likes will be saved on servers. Most of the time, it’s public.
So, ask yourself:
- Does it make sense to keep this data?
- Do you want that someone who meets you will start to know you by discussing physically, or by reading all your life on Facebook?
- Are old posts and comments will not disappoint you in the future?
- What stuff do you want to keep sharing with your friends about your life on Facebook or any social network?
- What give you spark joy by re-reading those past things?
- Most of all, did you have the time to read all this past and heavy stuff? Probably not.
In 2019, it will be 10 years.
10 years that I’ve started using Facebook.
10 years that Facebook will have my data.
A light percentage of our life: feelings fingerprinted into the Facebook servers, with many personal feelings, traits details, pictures, etc.
Recently, after starting to declutter my digital life, I’ve been aware of 3 main things:
- Liking stuff on the Internet will not help you remember your life.
- Feel your life will help you to remember it, not your digital life.
- Sharing moments with your friends in the real world will help them to remember you, and will help you feel & live better.
That’s why I’ve decided to start this experiment and share it with you: delete old Facebook and social data over the past years.
And I’ve learned a lot of things…